Why fighting for child custody may be the wrong thing to do
When your spouse says they want a divorce, your instant reaction might be to fight them every step of the way. Yet this may not be the best course of action.
Fighting over property can leave a bitter taste and delay the divorce process. Fighting over your children could do lasting harm to all involved.
Divorce may be your time together reaching a natural end
Consider every relationship you have ever had, from the one with your parents to those with your siblings. From the kids that you hung out with at junior school to the colleagues at your last job. How many of those relationships are still intact in the same way today?
People often drift in and out of each other’s lives. Even though you married someone for life, they are free to change their mind.
Letting personal emotions get in the way can make it hard to find the best child custody solution. Your spouse may not want to be married to you anymore, but that does not change their ability to be a good parent to your children.
Coming up with a parenting plan that works may not be easy, yet your children deserve one. Various studies have shown the benefits for children when both parents continue to take an active role in their lives.
Co-parenting can also bring considerable benefits to you as a parent. Think back on all the times you got a break while your spouse took charge of the kids. While divorce will signify a change in your relationship with the person you married, you need to limit how much it affects your parent-child relationships.